[FatBirdy]

I was adopted in the 1970's and I have recently reuinted with my bmom....and she says she wants to tell her 3 children about me soon. My question is - how do bmoms feel about their adopted child vs. the child(ren) she raised? Do you feel responsibility for the adopted child? Do you want to treat the adopted child the same way you treat the kids you raised? - and do you - emotionally, physically, finacially, spiritually etc? Do you love your adopted child the same way you love the kids you raised? Is there a level of absolute love for all of your children or is it swayed by the fact that you didn't raise the adopted one? Do you feel less responsibility for the adopted child becasue they have another set of parents? Do you think your love for the adopted child could ever be equal to the child(ren) you raised? I have so many questions and I would love some insight.....I am having issues with feeling like the lesser child. I am as much a part of my bmom as my half sib's are but I am a stranger - the great paradox of adoption. Please, I greatly appreciate your help! Thanks!