[Daisy1339]

Hi, Gwen,

I responded to your post in another thread about this.

I really think you need to have a heart to heart with the bmom and leave this SW out of it.

Tell her how you're feeling about her demand for a phone call every day and be honest about it, do not mince words.

Find out FOR SURE, that she understands that there will not be calls every day after the baby is placed, not "supposedly" understands.

And I do not like what you said the SW said to you in the other thread. VERY shady and VERY unprofessional, in my opinion.

It doesn't matter if she requires a phone call every day. It doesn't even matter if she wants calls every day after the baby is placed. If that is what she wants, then she deserves to find a couple that is comfortable with that. That is what is normal for her. This is what is reasonable to her. My personal reaction to a bmom requiring this of me would probably be that I would feel manipulated, but another couple might be totally okay with it! It might simply be that this is what she wants and expects from a relationship with the aparents. It is only fair that everyone is up front and crystal clear about what the expectations and boundaries will be. Both of you (you & bmom) are equally invested and both should be respected. If you aren't willing to do what she wants, then you need to let this one go and let her find a couple that will.

I know, at least I will know, that it must be very difficult to wait to be matched. We are still in the home study process. But do yourself a favor and trust your gut feeling after you have spoken to the bmom yourself.

There will be other matches if your gut says this one isn't right for you or the bmom.

Good luck with everything!!!!