38 year old adoptee here. Just found bmom 2 months ago. I feel like we have lost so much time and what we are both dealing with now, could have been avoided if we had reunited earlier. She has asked for no contact for now and I'm sure it's because she is wading through 38 years of emotions, fears and guilt. and how to tell her husband of 36 years.
If you can't do a face to face, start slow as pp suggested. email or letters with pictures. Let her know you even from a distance. It will still help her with what she is looking for and not feel rejected. I know you love her and don't reject her but as a 14 yo kid, that is the impression avoiding contact brings. Heck, that is the impression for a 38 yo too.
Hugs to you!!!