I wish I was able to know my mother when I was 14, I didn't get to know her until I was 40. My mother has always been such a big part of me, it would have been very helpful to know this part of me at 14, plus I missed her, she's my mother.
Do your daughters know each other?
I agree with black sheep:
"When I first spoke and met my birthmom I wasn't so interested in the facts around my conception and birth as much as I needed to know HER and have her know ME. I was 31 when this happened and already married with 2 children. Had I known more about WHO I was when I was younger, I may have avoided so much pain and heartache, but that was already water under the bridge by the time it happened."
All I ever know to do is to be honest to myself about my fears, try to figure out what it is that am fearful of and share them with those that matter.
If you're not ready, you just aren't, but try to explain why you aren't and I'll bet everyone involved will help and support you with that. It's always good to have a heart to heart with your Mom
