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Originally Posted by DancinBear63
We all make choices that will work best for our own unique situations. I'm AA, DH is CC, and we are specifically interested in an AA/CC biracial child. I was absolutely stunned when, during our homestudy, our sw asked, "Why are you interested in adopting a biracial child?" She then proceeded to elaborate that many biracial kids can be darker than full AA children (DUH!). I explained to her that it wasn't about skin color, but we feel we can offer. (I'm not sure she understood, but I was really frustrated by the experience.)
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When we were looking around for an agency to sign up with, we interviewed one in Massachusetts (we used to live in Boston for years before moving to MD, and we traveled back specifically to meet with the agency director). It was a small agency (I am MORE than happy to tell you the name if you want to PM me), but from our conversations over the phone and their website, it seems to fit our needs.
DH is Hispanic, and I'm black. Okay. We speak with her for a while, saying that we'd prefer to adopt a biracial child, but are open to any race. She proceeds to tell us how her and her CC husband had adopted a part Mexican/part CC son, and a biracial (AA/CC) years ago. She says "You can hardly tell my son is part Mexican - only Mexicans can tell!".
Umm, we looked at the picture of her family hanging on her wall, and the kid looked Mexican (and we're not). She stated that her daughter having "AA features" (her words) had become an issue as she's grown older. Then she proceeds to lecture us on how hard it is to be minorities in this country! How some biracial kids are darker than black kids. How hard it is to raise children of color, that we should get training, that we have to know what we're getting ourselves into.
HELLO!! She wasn't blind, and we were sitting right in front of her. I think she had some issues with her own adoptive choices, to put it mildly. We were so miffed.