My first foster son was CC and people always assumed he was biracial because he was with me.
Nobody IRL ever said anything to me that was negative.(Had a few people online to do so though) It may have something to do with the fact that since I have been a foster/adoptive parent I have purposely moved to neighborhoods with LOTS of diversity. The apt complex and neighborhood I used to live in literally had people of all different races/ethnicities from several different countries.
The subdivision I live in now is also very diverse. My neighbors on one side of my house are CC..the other side are AA...My neighborhood has AA, CC, Hispanic, Asian, and there are several Interracial couples with Biracial kids....
Nobody in my neighborhood has ever asked me about my kids or their race (to my face anyway)...When I venture to other sides of town, I always get asked if my kids are "mixed" or just the other day I had a friend who I hadn't seen in a long time ask me what nationality my kids were. I was like "American"....She was like you know what I mean what race.....I said they are CC and AA.
I foster/adopt
all races and in my county it is just as likely to get a CC child as it is a AA child if you are open to race. About 43% are AA and 41% are CC. (the last time I looked at the statistics) I know many AA who are fostering/fostered or adopting/adopted CC children. As a matter of fact just about all of the AA I
personally know of in my city have fostered at least one CC child.
Quote:
|
Originally Posted by want2adopt_IN
I am wondering if anyone here is AA (or otherwise non-CC) and adopting a CC child. I was placed with the Peanut 3 months ago with the hopes of adopting and now it looks like it will indeed come to pass. 
It never even phased me that she was CC and I am AA. What does phase me are the comments from folks in the store who ask "Are you fostering?" "Who is her mother?" "Is she white?" "How did you get a white baby?".  Partly because I live in a predominantly CC community these comments always come from CC people. AA people tend to assume that she is just an extremely fair skinned AA child and go about their business 
Just needing to vent and hear if anyone else has to deal with the same crap. It seems that the same ignorance/racism is at play, but this time it's being directed at someone who can fully understand it. |