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Originally Posted by lovemy2boys
I have a question for people who have specified a gender preference.
**DISCLAIMER** This is a question based out of legitimate curiosity - not a loaded question trying to spark a debate. **END DISCLAIMER**
If you specified that you wanted a girl, let's say...and the expectant mom had an ultrasound that confirmed this, but the baby ~ SURPRISE ~ was a boy, what would you do? Would you change your mind and pass on a situation, even if you'd built the foundation of a relationship with the expectant mom? Or is this a situation where you will only commit to a baby that's already been born?
I get it when people have a "wish" one way or another. Heck! I never thought I'd be the mom of 2 boys - I always imagined that I'd have a girl, but that didn't happen, and I'm grateful for how things turned out. But I never really had a STRONG preference either way.
I guess I even understand it when a PP said that they could only afford one adoption, and so they wanted to make sure they "got what they wanted" for lack of a better term.
But what happens in a situation like what I mentioned? Do you change your minds with the child? Or figure that this was God's plan, or however you view it?
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I REALLY wanted a boy but would have taken either. I just left it in gods hands. Now if i was with matched with a emom and we taught she was having a boy and then when the baby came it turned out to be a girl I would DEFINITELY adopt the girl. Although I only wanted boys if I had a daughter of course I would love her with no regrets.