[SupaModel]

Originally Posted by aclee

1st, I was amazed that people that partake in minority adoption are even more likely to request a girl. When I enthusiastically told one adoption worker that I didn't blame them, I was looking forward to braiding too, she had to set me straight and tell me most people would adopt girls because boys would somehow "forever" change the make up the family name. ie, DH is the last one in his family to carry on the name C (this is true) now the name C will have AA heritage, where before it didn't....but who really knows if it did anyway, Dh was/is a mutt, and no one in his family cared one iota that Ty was AA. What I don't get is, you are either carrying on the family, biologically or you aren't...why does it matter if the person carrying it on is white, or a minority. I didn't really get it, but apparently that's what sometimes happens.

I also think ppl prefer a AA girl beacause they don't wanna deal with raising a AA male in our society. It's definitely harder and comes with even more prejudice and stigma. I know DH was worried about have a black male because he didn't want to do a diservice to him by being a CC man. Now he understand that he can raise him to be a strong black man and I see how much he's taking this role seriously. He really makes it a point to understand issues for AA men.