some people are just lame. i'm cc, and we fostered aa children....and the only stares and comments we got were from cc people. it drove me nuts.
that being said. i have only known one family that was aa adopting a cc child....but they were amazing! they were a large aa family with many kiddos they had adopted or were fostering, and they had this one little cc girl since she was a baby. when she came up for adoption, they naturally wanted to adopt her as she was very much a part of their family. i think too many people get wrapped up in thinking we should all stick to adopting children that match us, without realizing that when children are placed in our home, we fall in love with a child, not a color. i think there will always be people who do not understand transracial families. but there will also be lots of people who also don't get adoptive families. both of which my family are. i can't live my life worrying about those people. i can only do what i think is best for my family.
the comments will never stop coming. and you will never get used to hearing the crap stupid people can say about your kid. the comments about babysitting will always bother you. somedays you will just smile and shake your head and sweetly say, "this is my daughter," and leave it at that. sometimes you will feel the need to educate them and explain she is adopted, and sometimes you will just very snottily respond that NO you are not babysitting and give them some witty comment about how closed minded they are as you storm out. lol! i'm usually nice...but i find i've been rolling my eyes alot lately when i hear the lame comments....and i haven't been very patient about my answers lately either. tuck a few good come backs in your pocket, practice a few polite responses, and then don't worry about what people will say.
good luck to you
