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Originally Posted by aclee

...she had to set me straight and tell me most people would adopt girls because boys would somehow "forever" change the make up the family name...

I get it. I understand it. But...
My sister and I were both adopted. My parents were married but my amom did not take my adad's last name. So when my sister and I were adopted we opted to have different last names (we were an older adoption). My sister took my mom's last name and I took my dad's last name. My sister and I both ended up being single moms (both of girls -- me by adoption and her by birth). Who would have thought that 2 girls would be carrying on the last name of their parents.

I know a picked the gender of my child so it seems hypocritical so say that people should be open to eithr gender. I do know I would have fell in love with a boy if that is what I had been referred. Boys deserve loving homes, too. I sometimes feel the same way about people who only want a child as young as possible -- there are a lot of older kids that need loving homes too.

Samantha