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I think your husband should initiate contact himself. If he gets rejected, it will be difficult no matter if he hears it directly or hears it through you. Rejection is a possibility, but he won't know unless he takes some risk and puts himself out there. I would say be prepared for the possibility of rejection, don't go in with any expectations or preconceived notions of what will happen or how any relationship will play out, and take things slowly. If a phone call is too hard or overwhelming, he should write a letter. This way, he can lay out all his thoughts and feelings and his birthmother can have something she can read over and take time to process. Maybe if he's not quite ready for this contact, he can read up on reunion issues, prepare himself as much as possible, and continue to get counseling. Is their a triad support group in your area? That can be very helpful to meet with others who have been through or are going through reunion.
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