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I would like to address some of the comments here from the adoptive parents. I am no kid and am probaly loder then most of you.
Some say we should feel grateful for being adopted. WE don't feel grateful just for the very act of being adopted. I think most peole don't "want" to be adopted so why would those of us that were be grateful that we had to be adopted in the first place? We are NOR grateful that we had to be adopted in the first place. No matte what the reasons the parents wanted, or needed to adopt it doesn't change the fact that the adoption happened to the adoptee...no one else. Everyone else is a PART of the adoption but its the adoptee that is adopted. Most children "should" be gratfeul for to good parenting and those of us that are adopted ARE gratful to our parents for handing our adoptions with sensitivity and respect for who we RREALLY are..that is born of one and raised by another. If in fact the reasons for our adoptions were valid and if we had good parenting again with respect to what our true situations were we WILL be graetful and loveing. My parents are my real parents...period...but I did have another mother and not matter how aweful she may have been(she wasn't aweful at all) it is up to me to decide how I feel about heer..no one else. An adopted child can NEVER be "just like our own" in every way. Because its not the truth. We can be real kids, we can love our REAL(doptive) parents as oour real parents and still want to know our bio...its where we came from...its a part of who we are and I feel that if adoptive parents do love their children as they say they need to understand that.
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