Tim,
Speaking to the issue of your bmom not using your name much I am an adoptee reunited 2 years 9 months and my bmom rarely uses my adoptive name. She had also given me a name and in our first year of reunion I asked her about using the name she gave me but she declined that idea all together. She told me that is in the past and that we must move forward.... which I agree but I believe we do need to go back at times for healing. I just think it is difficult for them to see us as someone other than who we were to them when they had us even in my case with my bmom only seeing me through the nursery window the day she left the hospital. This is just my opinion. Best wishes for a wonderful time with your new found family.
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