[ophelia72]

Oh the joy! i really mean it! Though the testing of bounadaries can work on your last nerve and the temper tanturums over not getting their way can really be nerve wracking. But I can not get enough of the giggles and laughter. the runnning over with arms open wide hugs, the velcro of the little bodies hanging onto the legs while you are trying to walk. That is pure bliss.
But really the not taking naps is really really hard. I am really trying to work on a schedule. Plus my timing seems to be off with this whole toliet training thing. Our IA Doctor believes my DS was toilet trained and more times then not my timing with him is ok. I take them about every two hours. But with my DD I think I should try every hour. I take her then I smell that lovely smell and I ask did you do KAKA. She smiles and says KAKA then I have a symphony of 2 little people singing KAKAKAKAKA. Oh the joy. SHe knows when she goes but can not tell me before hand AHHHHAHHHH!Communication its a lovely thing. Samething with DS peepee ok timing I can do KAKA well its always after the fact.
I have to ask you veterans we took our children to the IA doctor and had them evaluated by a bilingual Psychologist. The psychologist said I should not even tak ethem for a walk in a stroller. I really have a hardtime with this one because I like taking walks and it has been really nice here true autumn days. Is it not like being in a different kind of orphanage if they can not get out and see the world. I know about over stimulation but before taking to the doctor we went for walks and they really responded to it. Looking around and look back to me with smiles. I like to get some thoughts on that one.
Also from the evaluation the pshchologist said he knew his full name he spoke in clear full sentences, knew shapes and colors though he could not name them except for two. Knew stories and kept telling the story even after the therapist stopped reading. It saddens me that he knows his full name. If he didn't know it giving him a new identity didn't seem so upsetting but now I am changing who he thinks of himself, Am I? Did anyone else have these feelings part of me feels bad.
All in all things are going well. Except that they have a hard time bonding with my DH but I keep telling him small steps. Their primary caregivers were females, so small steps. they both let him feed them. DD lets him help her up and down the stairs. She is the real sore spot. My DH and I have a game pass the baby. Where we pass her back and forth from one to the other and then let him hang on to her a little longer. He sherbets he tummy and tickles her and then back to mommy. each time its a little longer. But most of teh time when he touches or holds her she screams as if he is killing her and reaches out for me. It just kills him. Even DS rejects him at times and it is really hard on my husband he really loves them and it hurts him to be rejected so, but I keep telling him we have taken them from everything they know. We know it is for the better they don't, everything in due time. Anyway here are some pics. Excuse my DD hair they shaved her head before we picked her up. Poor little thing was taken for a boy the whole trip home.