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Originally Posted by Fran27
It's interesting... I don't really see things the same way... I do actually think that it takes a lot of courage for women to go ahead with the pregnancy and place their baby... I don't think it necessary qualifies the birthmothers as pro-life either, but it is probably much harder in the end than having an abortion.
I know I wouldn't ever address a birthmom with such comments though... It's wrong to assume that they're pro-life because they didn't have an abortion.
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Exactly, placing my child for adoption has not exactly been a self esteem boosting experience. I don't run around thinking how wonderful I am because I carried my pregnancy to term and made another woman a mother. That wasn't my job in the first place and I resent the implication that my son is a gift. My gift was to him, people that were in a place to parent when I wasn't.
No, when I think about it, it is more along the lines of what a crappy person I am because I was irresponsible, got pregnant when I was 25 and should have been ready to parent, but wasn't. Yeah, I feel badly about that, and probably will my entire life.
I'm not saying that terminating is easy either, but adoption isn't about all warm fuzzies for women (and men) that place.