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I guess what bothers me about those kinds of comments is that it seems (and this is just my interpretation) that they assume that adoption is of only infants. If somebody said to me that I should be grateful that my bmom didn't have an abortion it would seem strange -- I was not adopted at birth. I was removed at 5.5 years old. Yes she could have had an abortion. Or she could have taken care of me. Or she could have not beaten me. Or she could have given me up for adoption. Or... I don't know the statistics on adoption of infants but adoption is not only of infants.

And yes I am grateful everyday to have my daughter in my life. And I know her bmom was unable to make the decision to make an adoption plan for her -- it must have been too difficult for her to think about giving a child up for adoption -- so it was up to her extended family to make that decision after she died. But some people make it seem like giving a child up for adoption is an easy option to consider. And I don't think that is true.

Samantha