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Against the wonderful [insert sarcasm here] advice of the nurses on staff, I insisted on holding and feeding my son in the hospital. I don't think, for me, it made relinquishing harder. There was just no way I was going to carry a pregnancy for 9 months and not see and hold my baby. I am very glad I stuck to my guns on that issue.
It was not an option for me to bring my baby home. Had it been, I'm not sure what I would have done. I was pretty well set on adoption from very early in my pregnancy. I would have liked to spend more time with my son, but at the same time, I knew I had to let go, too. But in retrospect, it could have solidified my decision even moreso. I did have a friend who initially planned for adoption, couldn't go through with it, tried to parent, and after 2 or 3 weeks, she realized she couldn't do it, and continued on with her adoption plan. I think it helped her realize she was making the right decision and she didn't second guess herself so much.
I think women should have as many options available to them as possible, and taking the baby home should be one of them. THEY should be the ones to decide what they can or cannot handle, not the doctors, nurses, agency workers, family, adoptive parents, etc.
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