[lglysson]

I was in the just kinda opening up era. I remember going to a support group and I said I didn't think I could handle seeing or holding my baby. I remember a bmom saying, "Hold your baby. I waited over 20 years to hold my son." That was the best advice for me. I have those memories of holding her, right after birth. Skin on skin, her sleeping on my chest. I will never forget it. I don't think I could have brought her home. I had an older child that I think it would have been difficult for. Although he came to the hospital and held her. I have a picture of them together. He doesn't remember it though, he was only 2.

There is many different ways of going through this, there should be no standard or mandates. It should be open, and bmom should always have a pretty free rein on what she can handle and do.