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Originally Posted by MsTee72
The most recent lie was when I smelled perfume and asked both my daughters did they have on perfume, they both said no. I said somebody has perfume on because I smell it. They didn't admit to it, so I told them that I was going to smell them & if one of them was telling me a lie they would be in trouble. A short while later, the 15 year old said that it was her. I said so you decided to tell the truth, I asked her why did she lie. She said because she forgot.
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I agree with everyone else who's posted.
I'd also wonder how the initial question was presented, was it "parentally toned" (not abusive or anything...just that parental way we all can relate to) to begin with...meaning when you posed the "who is wearing perfume" question was there a tone or inclining that there would be "trouble" reagrdless
or was it a friendly...mmm that smells good who's wearing perfume? I only ask becuase your teen may be thinking why bother telling the truth about something pretty trivial I'm you're going to get in trouble regardless. Sounds like your teen is hedging her bets and trying to not get in trouble either way.
Is it possible she did in fact forget? I'm not sure if squirting on perfume plays a pivital role in anyone's day. I forget about it after it's on!
Being a teen is so hard, just as hard as parenting one. Stick to your guns with lying, it's wrong..but we don't want to set our kids up for failure, esp in their own weaknesses. She may need counseling or help with the root causes of her lying, it might just be her defense mechanism, a savior from her past, or just bad learned behavior from her past. (??)
I agree with Whirled Peas video suggestion, it's a very good video.