[mdesi]

Alright, you are really going to hate me for saying this, but please bear in mind that I have BTDT w/ my DSS. How big of a deal is it that she wear perfume? Most 15 y.o. girls want to wear it, and barring allergies, there are really bigger things to get worked up over.

I do realize that you are concerned about the lying, but that is NOT a characteristic of ADHD. Also, you kind of backed her into a corner to lie. In her world, this is no big deal to wear perfume.

If it is a continual thing, or you are worried about the possibility of her stealing these items, that is a whole other ball game. Is she going to counseling? Can you go as a family? (I'm concerned about the younger one being an informant only b/c it sets up a scenario in which there can be resentment b/t the older and younger DD's.)

ETA: I should probably explain why the lying is not part of the ADHD diagnosis, especially in this scenario. ADHD is marked w/ impulsivity. The first lie - I am not wearing perfume - is an example of impulsiveness, The second lie - Hanging out w/ girls who were spraying perfume at the time - is calculated, not impulsive at all.