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Originally Posted by RobinKay
I think if someone is on the road to adoption, through foster or privately, they have patience. I think that would be a given.
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I laughed.
Adoptive parents are not saints. They are human beings. Each and every one of them. They run out of patience. They make mistakes. One could argue that the patience they are forced to endure (while waiting) could make them have less patience with someone purposefully testing their limits as lowlanders suggested (which, by the way, is not something I would ever suggest as it doesn't shuck and jive with my honest communication rule).
But all expectant parents considering relinquishment should realize that adoptive parents are human. There are going to be communication problems from time to time. Feelings will occasionally get hurt. And even in the best case scenarios, things can go wrong. When we tell expectant parents things like "all adoptive parents are patient people," we do them a great disservice as we're painting them as people who won't ever make a mistake.
Also: I'm not less patient because I'm not an adoptive parent. And I'm not MORE patient because I'm not an adoptive parent. I'm as patient as I was meant to be.
