Quote:
|
Originally Posted by c_adoptee
I found birth family 9 yrs ago. Its been an emotional roller coaster..they've rejected me, not sure what to do now?
|
Cindy, could you tell us a little bit more about what's happening between you and your birthfamily? Nine years is a long time to be in reunion to have it suddenly shut down. Were there problems in communications, or hard feelings about certain things? Maybe if we know just a little more about your story, we could give you some advice and/or opinions.
I'm sorry that you're in pain right now. I'm hoping that what you're viewing as rejection turns out to be a misunderstanding instead. Last year, after 17 years in reunion, my son suddenly told me not to contact him ever again. Thankfully, it turned out to be a giant misunderstanding between us...he was assuming how I was feeling about him, and I was assuming how he was feeling about me. Our breakdown in communication led to both of us thinking that the other one was rejecting each other. When my son discovered that it was just a misunderstanding, he opened up the lines of communication, and now we're doing great.
Hang in there, and keep posting here. It helps!
