[Saya]

I think how the OP was treated was wrong. But I think that the books/profiles etc. that are shown to potential birth parents SHOULD include some small reference to the religion or spiritual practices of the PAPs. NOT to discriminate against those of us who aren't in the American mainstream, but to facilitate the likelihood of a successful adoption by reducing the likelihood of surprises late in the game. I think the goal should be to give as much information to the PBM as possible for the purpose of assisting her in making an informed decision.

At our agency every potential birth parent considering adoption is given the book with ALL PAP profiles in it - these are short 2 page profiles, almost like form letters. One of the questions on it asks what your religion is, and then a PBP can decide how important that issue is for him or her.