[marythemom]

Our caseworker told us to not allow contact with biomom until/ unless she made some changes. She was blaming the children, saying it was their fault she put them in foster care. This was too damaging to them to allow. We allowed contact with the rest of the biofamily whenever the children wished, usually ended up being 1-2 times a week. The kids were usually a bit of a mess after each call, but that improved the longer they lived with us.

Biomom got hold of my e-mail address and began contacting me. I loved getting updates on my children's younger siblings, still with biomom, and baby pictures of my two, but I did not allow contact with the children. She emailed me about 2x a month, but I only answered her about once a month.

Biomom was acting like I was just the kids foster mom and she was still their mom, and I finally got fed up and let her know they were MY children now - she voluntarily TPRed. She stopped e-mailing me in May. I haven't reached out either. I probably won't. My situation is a little different in that biomom allowed my kids to be abused and neglected for years before she dumped them in foster care. She has my sympathy, but my priority is what's best for my children.