[marythemom]

I worked in a childcare center for many years. It is totally normal for kids to cling to daycare workers, or appear "mad" at their parents. Most kids cry when they are dropped off and cling to parents, and then do the opposite at the end of the day! Transitions are hard for children of all ages - bio or adopted.

Both your children love you, but just as you can love more than one child, they can love more than one caregiver. The child who is bonding to her caregiver is developing her ability to attach and bond. I know you wouldn't rather that she cries all day at school and doesn't bond to anyone - still, it hurts when a child appears to like one person more than you, whether it's Daddy, daycare worker or Grandma.

When we adopted our children I took my maternity leave and then went back to work. My kids were school age so I didn't think there would be any big problems with me working. My son was kicked out of school on his 3rd day. He had repeated issues with this. My biodd had multiple episodes with her heart, requiring trips to the emergency room. My work had already decided I was "too expensive." So when I asked for some accomadations, possibly going to part-time, they said, "No."

I quit my job and was a SAHM for 5 months while my husband and I purchased a company. Now I'm the President of the company we own and my schedule is very flexible so I can pick up sick children, go to therapy and doctor appointments, and even take my children to work with me if they are having a tough time. If only the company were making a profit it would be an ideal situation!

Neither option is easy, and both have drawbacks and advantages. Parenting is hard no matter how you look at it!