[mg1970]

I was the one that used the term exmom in a sentence where clearly I was referring to an "expectant mother considering making an adoption plan" (and YES that is a lot to type). I did not think of the negative connotation when typing it and it was clear in the sentence I used it what I meant. It has been made pretty clear to me here that it is not appropriate to use the term birthmom in this context and I was trying to be sensitive, but that seems to be lost in this place where it seems we spend more time correcting eachother's language than supporting eachother or trying to understand where the other person is coming from.

It was pointed out to me that this could be considered offensive. I was like OK, MY mind didn't go there but whatever -- I'll stick to emom in the future.

Then in a thread where we were talking about offensive terms someone brought it up again, and I defended myself stating that yes, I used that term and I've also used the term B.M. (no dots) for birthmother and in context I used these, it was clear what I meant -- but yet I was blasted for using these terms.

Anyway, I was then told that it was "not true" that I was blasted for this -- completely negating my feelings. WELL IF THIS ISN'T BLASTING I DON'T KNOW WHAT IS

You know I am NOT apologizing for a word taken out of context that I used once while trying to be sensitive in this overly PC board. I'm just not. Especially when it has been made so clear that no one here really cares about the original intent -- they just want to bash me.