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Last fall we took a baby as a pre-adoptive foster placement. His goal was adoption and he was supposed to be a "sure thing" for TPR. Almost nine months later, we lost him to RU. He was our first placement and we have no other children. It was--and is--devastating. It has been more than two months and there are still some days that it is difficult to get out of bed in the morning. He will always be our son and we will make sure we always have room in our home and hearts if he is removed from his birthparents again.
That said, with therapy, we are learning to move on with our family planning. And we're going through DSS and looking at taking another legal-risk placement.
So, if you go ahead with foster-adopt, be prepared for a rollercoaster. Have a good support system and be willing to reach out to people. Make sure to take time to make sure your marriage is strong and supported. And then just go for it!
PM me if you want to talk in more detail.
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