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Hello!
We just returned from China in May (with our twin daughters) and after a 3-month leave, I returned to work full time. We share a nanny with another family.
I have working friends with biological children and no-one sugar coated it for me - they said it would be difficult - more for me then the girls. It actually went better then expected and the girls seem to adjust quickly.
But I have an issue of my own. I have noticed that one daughter is quite clingy while the other seems to prefer the nanny over me.
It is pretty heart-wrenching to go to pick the girls up at the end of the day and one of our daughter's runs to the nanny and buries her face in tha nanny's shoulder. She sees me and doesn't want anything to do with me. When I leave she cries and puts her arms out to have the nanny take her back. The three of us were so close when I was home and I thought we had a solid foundation. When we are home, things are back to normal and everything is fine.
But after picking the girls up at first, I want to just cry. I am not sure what my daughter is thinking. Is she mad because she learned to trust me and then I left her with a stranger? Or does she simply just prefer the nanny over me? I have to work right now and the girls seem to be just fine. It's me with the problem.
Anyone else out there have a similar experience?
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