Same War - Different Day
Everyone insulted by titles. The birthmother/aparent thing....
I didn't come in here using that term. I got used to using that term when everyone else in here used it to describe themselves. When I repeatedly said that I wasn't comfortable with it...I was told that it's simply easier to refer to birthmothers as 'birthmothers' and the adoptive parents as 'aparents'. That makes perfect sense.
And while I still am not comfortable with either term, I can see that in this forum for purposes of clarify it is easier to use these to keep everyone straight and to keep everyone, hopefully, from hurting someone else without meaning to.
The term "Ex" though? In today's society it is a term specifically leant to divorce or to retirement. It's ex-wife; ex-husband; ex-military, etc. etc.
I cannot think of single instant where the term exmom should be used, unless, as Kathy says, you are divorcing your parent.
No one should be using it to describe moms of any kind in here...whether they be birthmothers, adoptive mothers; whatever.
So I did a little experiment. It took me exactly 4 seconds to type expectant mother. If anyone cannot take 4 seconds to type a word out....then they are too **** busy to be hanging around in here! Type the **** word out!!
Janey
