I think the connection with other familes that are formed by adoption is a desire we all have. That is the reason I have become so addicted to A.com and just love the friends I have made here.
I too wish I could find another local family that is an adoptive family. I don't hide that DD was adopted and actually have to stop my self some times as we are getting so many comments these days as to how much she looks like her daddy. I am still so new at this that I always mention yeah, it is uncanny since we adopted her.
Maybe there should be a code word set up for all adoptive families to use if they are an adoptive family that wants to talk. Then we could get the conversations started easier without feeling we were treading on thin ice.