[Amber76]

Today my mil delivered two gifts from people at her church for Ben. (For anyone who doesn't know, Ben is our son through domestic adoption and he will be five months old in 2 days. Our daughter, Ariana, died while we were in the process of adopting her in Guatemala. She would have turned one next week.) The first was a nice card and a gift card. When I first saw the second one, I thought it was odd because the gift bag was green and pink, but figured it was just one somebody had lying around. So I opened it. Inside was the frilliest pink girl outfit I have ever seen, along with a card addressed to "Baby Girl" and our last name. The card went on and on about what a blessing and a miracle a daughter is. I felt like someone had sucker punched me. How could someone send me a girl gift for my son, especially someone who should have known about us losing our daughter? And the worst part is that my MIL thought it was funny. She actually laughed and said, "Oh, you know Gretchen. She's so flighty." I just stood there trying really hard not to cry. The last thing I needed the week before Ariana's birthday was a card talking about what a miracle and gift a daughter is and a frilly pink girl outfit. And now I am left with a lot of anger, both at the gift giver and at my MIL for laughing about it. Shouldn't she have seen that I was devestated? Shouldn't she have been upset too?
Thanks for letting me vent!