[ana-mom]

I can't imagine what you are going through but it sounds like you are a dedicated, loving mother who will push herself to the limits to make sure her girls know they are loved.

I am fortunate in that J came home a happy baby and does not appear to have a lot of attachment problems. She is only clingy when someone new is around her. Ana is accepting her big sister role with grace and love - she helps me with bottles, kisses J goodnight and when I am holding J will say 'my turn' when she needs a cuddle. That said, I am still exhausted at the end of each day.

I agree that you should take the time you can when DH is around. Try for a soak in the tub or a nap before dinner. You need to take care of yourself if you are going to be able to take care of everyone else and not collapse or get sick from being so wrung out.

Enlist the help of friends AP trusts to come and take her for a little one on one.

We are allowing Ana to stay up for 1/2 hour longer than J each night for stories and cuddles. I went to the grocery store with just Ana the other day so she and I could have some alone time.

When Ana came home she would cling only to me but DH used to force me to go out on Saturday mornings so that Ana would have to rely on him.

Sending you (((hugs))) and praying each day is a better day for you and your girls.