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Originally Posted by Waiting4Celeste
I remember feeling very overwhelmed with just ONE child, but feeling like I couldn't admit it because we had waiting so long to become parents that I didn't feel I had the "right" to complain about how much I was struggling. I definitely went through Post-adoption Depression. Wish I would have asked for help.
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I totally agree with Cindy. I started feeling overwhelmed and depressed while still on the pick-up trip, and had SUCH a hard time with Daniel for the first couple of months. I can't even imagine taking care of 2 kids, esp. while one is going through such a big transition. I stayed home for 6 months, which was more than long enough to realize that SAHMs are regular women forced to do a super-hero job! I have tremendous respect for you. And if you feel terrible and overwhelmed, even have the occasional meltdown, it does NOT mean you're a bad mommy!
The most important thing that DH did for me while I was struggling was to be the main caregiver on weekends. He got up in the middle of the night so I could stay in bed. (I woke up anyway, I'm a mom, but at least I didn't have to get up). He did most of the feeding, cleaning up, etc. during the day and let me get out of the house for awhile. Just spending a couple hours at Target or having coffee with a girlfriend really recharged my batteries.
Try to keep in mind that this gets better over time. It really does! In the meantime, keep coming here for support, because we truly understand. And see if you can get some more help at home.
Lots of (((hugs))) coming your way!