It took well over a year to get over not being able to parent this sib set. I felt guilty and angry that these children had so much happen in their short lives. I am a very optimistic person by nature, but I felt very sad and lost for a long time. I knew I had done the right thing in my knower, ahhh but the heart is a another matter. The thing that kept me sane was I knew if I kept them I would be doing the very thing that got me involved with foster care and adoption and that was to make a difference in a child's life. That from the moment they entered my home I would keep them safe. I couldn't keep my kids safe and the more they acted out the more harm they did to themselves. I would think long and hard about keeping the older girl her comment can only mean one thing in my mind and it just isn't worth harming her more if she acts out or any of the other children in your care. My heart so goes out to you. You can get through this, get the investigation done (we had one too) it should go smoothly as you did everything right. If you are to have the older girl moved you should do it quickly as she know doubt feels the possibility looming before her and it will be easier on her to move quickly. I would make sure to mention her comment either way to the sw she needs counseling now! PM me if I can be any
or you just need someone to talk to. Blessings.