[mommy3]

We experienced an early failed match (earlier in the pregnancy when we chose to walk away b/c the expectant mom became really difficult) and one when the expectant mom chose to parent at birth and not to call us. Both were very painful but I learned that these situations were "easier" for us than the failed adoptions my friends have experienced when they were WITH a baby for days and then the mother changed her mind. I do support a mother making her OWN choice, clearly the most important issue in being a mother, "how will my child be raised?" Still, when we're in the role of the waiting adoptive parent, our perspective is truly so difficult, even when we accept the choice of the mother. May you have time with your family to grieve, step away a little and then, renew your plans and wait for the baby you were meant to have. Best thoughts, susan