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Thanks, I will try some of these. I thought I could rock him till he calmed one day last summer when everyone was gone. We lasted over three hours, and then it just did not feel right to keep fighting. I told him that I loved him anyway, but let him sit beside me instead. He was willing to that and we read a book together. That worked much better than trying to force him. I think he was restrained when he was in trouble. I know he was in a crib and he was punished by being put in that crib after spankings. So I think the restraint really scares him. I have been actively looking for other ways to touch and hold him. Today in church he actually wanted to sit in my lap, so I think it's working. He was furious today at lunch when I told him we were going to have rest time after lunch because we were up very late last night and he was falling asleep during breakfast. So I decreed a "quiet time" for everyone after lunch. He hates quiet time, he would rather play video games. I fully expected him to refuse to eat, since he usually does that when he is mad. However, he ate two natchos. (that's a lot for him) and he did sleep during nap time and afterwards told me thank you, and said he was tired and felt much better after a nap. So I think we are making progress.
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