Hey Kathy and Raven!
You guys are absolutely right about people needing to be clear and specific in what they want/don't want as far as dying goes.
It is a shame that more people can't discuss these things. I am the guardian of my mother's estate and am the one who will be making her health decisions should she be unable to communicate. It is easier knowing what our loved ones want. So many times people just expect us to know.
Raven
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Either that, or I'm just a total coward. I mean, what if I bring the subject up, she gets ticked off at me for the hundredth time, I hang up the phone with hard feelings, and then she dies?? That's my childish fear right now...
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I don't see this as you being childish; I see it as your mom not being able to face her death. And I know that's easy to say when we're not in the same situation but I would hope that I would not put my children through that kind of emotional pain and struggle.
But I think you're right not to confront her. Like you say, it just brings you more grief.
This is definately one of those "wait and see" situations that's so hard to deal with because there's so much "grey area" in it.
Praying for you,
Janey