[Fe2002]

SWD, I know exactly what you're talking about... I'm exactly the same way. It literally pains me to accept things from others. I didn't even want a baby shower. People thought I was being coy, but, in fact I was not.

Another issue is that I'm sort of particular about what I like... so when others buy gifts for DD. I truly know what a *waste* it is, because my DD may NEVER wear or use the item they bought.

At this point I've just learned to "grin and bear it". It's horrible though, because I'm constantly having to ensure gift items are at the very least taken out of the bag when people come to visit - weeks/months later.

It was my sister who finally just put it to me plainly one day. She told me that even if people can't afford something it's none of my business and that they've made the choice to buy something and that it can be offensive when I insist on otherwise.