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Originally Posted by zxczxcasdasd
I like all the good ideas, but I wanted to add, all the toys your son has came from someone and somewhere, didn't they? Why would the former foster parents be the only ones prohibited from buying toys when whoever else is supplying all the toys isn't prohibited?
I've seen this same statement come also applying to birth mothers "our kid has everything he/she needs!"
I know we mean well when we say that our kids have "enough" of whatever it is, but I think what comes across is "they don't need it from you" or "I don't it want it coming from you."
A gift is expression of good feeling and love in the form of an item of the giver's choosing. Rather than limit and direct it, I think in general, when people give gifts, unless they are inappropriate or dangerous, we should just accept with a gracious thank you and a big hug.
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B/c they are dirt poor, that's why! I have never been comfortable taking from others but especially when those others are in need themselves. And I appreciate their generosity, but really, they've given him the best gift anyone could have -- a great start in life. It just feels wrong to me to take anything from them, I guess. But I do get what you mean that it can come across as, "I don't want anything from you" and I don't want that either.
It turns out that the toys they wanted to give him (yes, multiple) were not new, so I didn't feel as bad. They will go to another child who needs them when he's finished with them, and I think for the birthday party I'll tell them he wants a book, in case they were planning to buy new for that. (It was the mention of renting space at a park, and a jumping castle, etc. that got me. They spend oodles on their kids' parties and want to do the same for him, since they consider him family. That's just too much for me.)