[donnaparadise]

It is probably too late as you 'needed an answer by Friday', however, I have a question for you and D:

Why would you say anything?

What would you achieve by approaching someone who has not opened the door, who has not indicated that she would welcome any conversation about a private thing and that you are guessing might be upset about something that was said, but really aren't sure.

It seems to me that something was said in the context of an open meeting where there were several members.

One member decided to leave.

Two members decided to gossip about that member's reason for leaving, really not even sure if they were accurate or not and now,

someone wants to approach this member about something that is none of their business, really.

My question: Why?

Why do you feel you have to say anything or try to fix something that might not even need fixing?

As a bmother, I would be upset that others were talking about me and assuming they understood why I left a meeting, which I had a right to do. I would be upset that people didn't seem to have more to do with their time than gossip about me and if approached, would be upset at the obvious blurring of appropriate social boundaries and the subtle attempt to get into my private affairs.

Better than saying anything to her at all, I would simply say Hello at the next meeting and let her take the lead. Not all bmothers spend every waking hour of the day being upset about relinquishment and don't make every discussion, conversation, etc., about how hurt they feel and do not need to be fixed.

Just my .02