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Originally Posted by Vogi2002
Aparent being spelled AP make me want to gag too..but because I think of AP tests...NO good. LOL!
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*smirk* Ditto that. Gosh. Hated those.
And I forgot to add on my previous post: No, not knowing that it is offensive is not an excuse that I'm going to buy. Perhaps its not their fault exactly. This is where adoption agencies and attorneys and propaganda are dropping the ball. Families are not being educated on the ins and outs of adoption. They are not being taught anything about what an expectant mother considering adoption thinks or feels. They are only taught how to appeal to that mother. (By and large, not all. I have learned recently of a few good programs through agencies and I give them my kudos! KUDOS!) After relinquishment, these families (birth and adoptive members alike) are not taught how to communicate in any efficient or respectful manner. They're left to flounder on their own.
And that's the sickening truth of it all.
Yes. Words hurt. When people don't take the time to think about what they're saying, people get hurt. Not knowing how it will affect another person is NOT an excuse for hurting someone. It's just not. If I was to insult someone, I'd say, "SORRY."
Furthermore, I have a question:
Are those referring to their potential child's expectant mother as an "exmom" calling her that to her face? Because, as much as I love my daughter's parents, if anyone had referred to me as an exmom, either online or to my face, I'd have turned and ran. And that was back in the day before I knew that I shouldn't yet be referred to as a birth mother. But no one was going to tell me that I was an ex -mother while that child was still in my womb! Give me a break. And, so, yes, I'd be interested to know how these "exmoms" feel.