[SchmennaLeigh]

I was away all day.

But I laughed out loud when I read that birth parents have the upper hand.


Tell that to my friend who was told that if she DIDN'T relinquish that her parents would be sued for the money used for her healthcare and boarding. Tell that to any mother who has felt coerced by language, agencies or attorneys. Tell that to any birth mother who feels forced to walk on eggshells out of fear that she will never again hear of or speak to her relinquished child.

Upper hand my doopa. That's all I have to say about that.

And to proudmum:

Go ahead and do a search on this forum (entire forum, not just this specific niche) for rants from adoptive families regarding terms like real and natural mother. Why are we not to be afforded the same space? What makes us less "right" to discuss it? What gives us less of a right to discuss our feelings? Nothing. We're just following in the footsteps of those who have come before us and questioning something that bothers us. Why does that bother you? Do you have an issue with our emotions? What specifically has bothered you about our plight as opposed to the plight of those dealing with real/natural mom terminology?