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Originally Posted by zxczxcasdasd
I like all the good ideas, but I wanted to add, all the toys your son has came from someone and somewhere, didn't they? Why would the former foster parents be the only ones prohibited from buying toys when whoever else is supplying all the toys isn't prohibited?
I've seen this same statement come also applying to birth mothers "our kid has everything he/she needs!"
I know we mean well when we say that our kids have "enough" of whatever it is, but I think what comes across is "they don't need it from you" or "I don't it want it coming from you."
A gift is expression of good feeling and love in the form of an item of the giver's choosing. Rather than limit and direct it, I think in general, when people give gifts, unless they are inappropriate or dangerous, we should just accept with a gracious thank you and a big hug.
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For young children I disagree. When they are showered with toys, they do not learn to value or care for their possessions. Additionally, young children can quickly associate a particular person or persons with gifts, and that becomes the sole basis for the relationship. Not wanting a house filled with clutter is also a valid personal choice for parents.
When parents want to redirect the gift giving, these are some of the reasons why, and they are good reasons. Parents also have the right to decide what is appropriate for their child. If they decide too many toys is not good for the child, that is their decision.
I feel the OP is saying the foster parents love and care for the baby. Their gifts show their great affection for him. The parents want this love and caring to continue, but thoughtfully and with meaning. Buying toys may be the only thing the foster parents can think of right now, and the OP was looking for suggestions.
I still think buying books is a meaningful gift, but fun for both foster parents and the child.