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Originally Posted by proudmum
I do actually walk away knowing the intent was not to offend,,, how can i expect people not involved in adoption to know,,, i dont sit there screaming "i am her mom" they know it and so do i ..
What annoys me is the fact that this person has made the effort to not call the "emom" a "birthmom" yet per your (bmoms) request,,, yet when they try to use the right term and messed up a bit the whole debate about "we are not ex-moms" comes up,,, why could someone just have not pointed out that this was confusing and the way it could look in a nice gentle way...
For goodness sake they made an effort to say the right thing,,,,, now if it was meant as bmom = Ex-mom then yes i say very offensive ...
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So we aren't allowed to voice our opinion just b/c a person was "trying". I guess then every thread about someone called a firstmom a real parent and it hurts me from an adoptive parent I'm going to post that it wasn't meant to hurt, so suck it up and get over it.
This should be a safe place to say what hurts us and not be told to suck it up and get over it, as if all of us in the triad don't get enough of that from society in general.
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First mom to the amazing Kiddo and adopted adult.
1-4-2009 Mom and I visit Kiddo despite the bad weather. He really loved the blue mittens I made him and even helped me plan my living room. Apparently Hot Wheels wallpapper is the way to go.
2-16-2009 I got a promotion, that comes with a raise. Mom and Dad are visiting and we're going to Al's for pie to celebrate.
4-27-2009 Dad surprises me with a Lady Ugly Stick (an awesome fishing rod that is pink) and a 2nd Iowa Light Artillery Battery jacket. I'm a lucky girl!
5-30-2009 Kiddo turns five. It is hard to believe he is that old already, it seems like just yesterday he was being born. I was at peace for the first time on his birthday, what a nice feeling.
6-13&14 2009 A cannon live fire in Casper WY. We got third place and I got to see Devil's Tower for the first time, it was pretty awesome.
7-4-2009 Amelia the kitten comes to live with me and Liz. Talk about jealousy, Liz will adjust though.
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