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Originally Posted by reesegayla
I don't mean to be the devils advocate here but is there any chance that this was just boys being curious? I know when my brothers were that age, my mom caught them showing each other their boy parts and comparing. I would of course, still talk to the caseworker about it but does this child have a sexual history? I just think it is possible you could be labeling this child for the rest of his life over something that could have been totally innocent.
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I think this is highly unlikely - a little bit of looking might be "normal curiosity" but I think the insertion of a finger into a body orifice is NOT an idea a five year old comes up with on his own. While there is no need for this to be a "label" that follows him for the rest of his life, it IS important that his caregivers be aware of it so they can be part of the healing (and not endanger other children). But the bottom line is that this isn't a decision we, as foster parents, get to make. We are mandated reporters, and then the Socil Workers have to decide what is appropriate. Would I allow him to stay in the home with a child he has already perpetrated on? I think that would be setting the stage for future "experimentation". At the very least, the caregiver would need to install door alarms and be constantly vigilant every moment of every day,.