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I haven't read anyone else's replies (I'm lazy) so I may be repeating myself.
First I think it's amazing that you want to be part of your baby's life. A lot of fathers don't feel responsibility for some reason, maybe since they aren't with the mother and the baby didn't live in them, they dont connect the baby as theirs. Who knows?
Anyway, always go through the court! If she wanted to start getting child support, she could sue you for back child support (even though you paid it) b/c you didn't properly document it through the legal system.
I think it's a little suspicious that she is pushing off the paternity test. I definately think you shoulod get on right away, not because you have doubts but because when you get the court system involved you legally get custody or visitation (with established paternity) instead of when the mother feels like letting you see your daughter. She cannot take your right to visitation away because you establish paternity, if anything you would be able to get set visitation and probably see your child more often. I would recomend getting ahold of an attorney to find out your rights in your state and begin the process of legally taking responsibility for your daughter so that ex-girlfriend can't turn around and try to **** you next time she gets a mood swing.
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