[BrockBaby]

I have read Primal Wound, and have even discussed it on a book club thread. There were parts of the book that I was really able to relate to, there were other parts of the book that meant nothing to me. Like many said before me, take what applies...leave what doesn't...but realize that others might be able to "take" what we left...doesn't make someone "right" or "wrong" just human!!!! The thing is, even in the realm of adoption, each person has their own unique experience. We are all born with different personality types, different things happened to us along our life. ALL of these things, including our adoption, plays a PART in who we become. Our parents, how we are raise, where we are raised, what is expected of us, also plays a PART of in who we become. I think that Primal Wound highlights ways that SOME adoptees have "reacted" to one PART of their life, that often times other life events contribute to those feelings as well. Perhaps the child that never gets picked for any games will feel rejected. They happen to be an adoptee. So they take that rejection, and then think about how their bmom "didn't want them either" (NOT saying that that is the truth...just the truth as the adoptee sees it at that point in their life) So, then what happens, the fact that they aren't chosen in baseball, reiterates how they may have been feeling about their adoption...nobody wants me...I'm not good enough.....and thus the cycle begins..

Disclaimer...I AM USING THIS AS AN EXAMPLE of HOW an adoptee MIGHT feel this way. NOT saying ALL adoptees or even MOST feel this way. BUT some do. SOME have these kind of experiences that "feed the fire" of their view of them being "rejected".

I think that it is a good thing to learn different theories. Just because you read something, doesn't mean you have to believe if for the truth. I do, however, wonder why adoptive parents wouldn't want to read the book based ONLY on the reason they don't want to think of their child maybe having a "wound". I think that a responsible parent might learn how their child MIGHT feel. She does have some good points in her book...about acknowledging the loss, ect.