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First I want to congradulate you on your pregnancy. Even if you you do not end up parenting a new life deserves to be celebrated.
I second what Jackie said. Please do not rush into any decisions right now. Adoption is forever and as I have said many time, is a premanant solution to a te,porary situation. Life changes, finances change as do jobs living situations ect. Not to mention we all mature an our prioroties change.
I see that you have read some and realize that some of the bmoms here share pain that is lifelong after relinquishing their baby.
Another thing is there are many aparents here who are single, so it is doable and I personally know many singlemoms that have gone on to meet wonderful mates.
Life is not over just because you have a baby, it just takes a little rearranging. You are fortunate that you have such support from your family, that is a definate plus.
Like Jackie said, you have time. You can always wait until after your baby is born. You have no idea how you will feel when that little one is placed in your arms. Trust me, it is life changing. In a split second any fears that you might have will dissapate as you gaze into your newborns eyes.
One last note that I feel I must say because I hear so many times about babies being a gift to childless couple. You do NOT owe any one your baby. It is not your responsibility to give up your own flesh and blood to make another person a parent.
I am no way against adoption, in fact I am considered pro adoption, but whenever I see a young lady post here and feel how torn they are, I believe there is that small voice inside of them telling them not to give their baby up.
Yes you can be a wonderful mother to your baby.
EZ
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