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Originally Posted by shadow riderer
Does the "Primal Wound" label adoptees as "wounded victims"? I guess it does in a sense. Is that a bad thing? Only if you choose to let it be. No one wants to be labeled a "victim". As an adoptee, you can only be a "wounded victim" if you choose to be.
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In her discussion about what to do as an adoptee in PW and how to conquer these emotions and feelings, the first thing Nancy says to do is to stop feeling like a victim. Take control, grieve, express your anger/sadness/deep emotions, but continuting to feel vicitimized only adds to the problem.
jwmjwm: I never hope bad on anyone. I hope there are adoptees that live life with no negative effects of the adoption. I thought I was one of them for most of my life, but I was wrong.
My "ignorant" remark was for adopting agencies, parents, counselors, etc... When dealing with children in adoption, to assume that everything will be fine and you can "love them out of it", doesn't work. I apologize for being unclear on that and if it sounded like I said you were ignorant.
Greg.