All I'm saying is be very careful. I have been warned several times to try to keep my emotions from running wild here. In my situation, We both have feelings for each other, and the more I am finding out, is that my feelings for her are mixed up with the love I have for my daughter...that then translates to a different kind of love for her mother...maybe a "respectful" love, who knows. I got married shortly after my daughters birth, and now am questioning the reasons for that, I do love my wife...but I think I have the ability to adapt. My childhood was totaly f'd up, so I have "getting close" issues. There are times that I start dreaming that we could get back together and that would fix everything....how far from the truth. I have to remind myself how lucky I am where I am. I am seeing a shrink, so that helps me out...a lil, but that is better than nothing. I think of my daughter every day, all day. I am approaching 40 in Nov, so I suppose I have some of those mid-life crisis, hey I am running out of time moments, but I try not to think about it much. It is touchy, but thats why this site is here.
You are lucky that there wasn't a misunderstanding that kept him away for 15 years, like me. My story can be found at
pay the piper? or 15 years time served?
feel free to pm me or continue on this thread. Whatever questions you have...I lost my shame a long time ago
